When you have anxiety and you’ve been affected by a narcissist your needs become second to theirs.
12. A narcissist gets you hooked while someone with anxiety fears abandoment.
A narcissist needs to feel needed. They need to feel like you wouldn’t be able to function without them. So they break you down and be the ones to build you back up. They try and make you believe they are the only one who can love someone like you.
Someone with anxiety clings to a series of these dependent relationships trying so hard to win their love and affection. A narcissist teaches you, love isn’t unconditional but comes and goes when they choose and someone with anxiety then ends up having a lot of abandonment issues because of this.
13. A narcissist will cause drama and spread false rumors while someone with anxiety crumbles at someone talking about them or thinking someone doesn’t like them.
Even if it isn’t true, instead of checking their facts, a narcissist will go after you for it. Instead of hearing your side, if you’ve made them look bad or tarnished their reputation beware.
Narcissists look at every relationship as a reflection of them. So if you aren’t living up to their standard and people are talking about you, they don’t think twice they just believe it because they thrive on negativity and drama.
And when you have anxiety and someone is saying something untrue and mean, you don’t defend yourself, you just deal with the pain someone else has caused knowing you didn’t deserve that.