16. A narcissist uses emotional abuse to silence you while someone with anxiety then silences themselves.
Narcissistic abuse is so much messing with your head so there isn’t concrete evidence someone can look back at and say, ‘you’ve done this, here is proof.’
When there is physical abuse, there are marks and bruises and you know it’s not right.
When it’s emotional abuse it’s all about the interruption. While a narcissists motive might have been to take you down verbally, days pass, they forget what happened and they say something like ‘you were being too sensitive.’ Again. reverting to denial of fact vs. fiction.
A narcissist wins when their victim becomes silent about the abuse. And someone with anxiety reverts to silencing themselves in any and all situations because there is blame projected upon themselves that they shouldn’t take ownership of but they do.
17. Everything is about control and this is where a narcissist and someone with anxiety has the greatest conflict.
The greatest issue a narcissist has against someone with anxiety is the battle for control. Someone with anxiety wants to control everything because anxiety is something they can’t control. A narcissist wants to control the individual because their own sense of worth and value is how they influence others and can control them. But someone with anxiety doesn’t want to be controlled.
Eventually the victim with anxiety learns to pull away and control parts of their own life but there are always things they take with them that was a result of narcissist abuse.
How they handle confrontation.
How they view themselves.
How they talk to themselves.
How they choose partners.
How they fold when fighting.
How they apologize too often.
How they are always anxious.
How they fear abandonment.
How they repress emotions.
How they blame themselves for everything.
The relationship between a narcissist and a victim with anxiety may be looked at as cause and effect. But anyone who can overcome both the demons within themselves and a toxic relationship is stronger than any person I know.